If you and your partner are thinking about starting a swinging lifestyle, there are many factors you need to consider. Swinging is a practice that can bring something new into your relationship and spice up your usual sexual life, but only if you communicate with your partner and know exactly why you want to try it. There’s not going to be any harm to your relationship, if you are honest and open with each other. So, if you have decided to start such a lifestyle but don’t know what to do first,try out the following tips.
Tip #1 – Decide What You Want
After you and your partner make the decision to try swinging, you need to sit down and tell each other what exactly you want to do, and who you want to see in your bedroom. Here compromising becomes extremely important. For example, your partner may want to incorporate only one girl into your sex life, but you are only willing to try swinging with another couple. In this case, you may agree on trying both or decide on another option. Whatever your desires may be, don’t agree to try any kind of sexual activity if you aren’t 100% sure you want it.
Tip #2 – Attend a Swinger Party
The easiest way to start a swinger lifestyle is to attend a swinger party. At first, such an event can be quite awkward, but this is an excellent opportunity to meet other couples. Swinger parties are usually relaxing and casual, because they’re meant to put people in the right mood for new experiences. Maybe the first couple of times you go to swinger parties you won’t actually meet people you want to have sex with. Regardless, you will make some friends and communicate with experienced swingers about how they started their journey.
Tip #3 – Check Out Dating Websites
If you feel uncomfortable about attending a swinger party, try going online first. Research dating sites for swinger couples and choose the one you like best. Such websites usually have a convenient interface and offer tools to find the right people you’d want to try swinging with. Online dating is a great way to start swinging if you are careful and only use trusted and well-known websites.
Tip #4 – Meet Swinger Couples Before Inviting Them Over
Usually, people are very different on the Internet compared to in real life. If you’ve found a couple online that matches your criteria, it’s important to meet them before inviting them to your bedroom. A good way to communicate and get to know each other, is to go out for drinks together. Chances are you will not only incorporate these people into your sexual life, but also become good friends
Tip #5 – Go to a Swinger Club
After attending swinger parties and looking online, you should be quite prepared to go to a swinger club. While swinger parties are usually just a space to meet new people, swinger clubs are where you can actually have sex. Such clubs can be very different and so should pick one that suits your needs and taste.
Swinging has many advantages and positive effects, but only if you follow the boundaries you and your partner have set together. Build trust in your relationship and don’t be afraid to try new things, if they bring you happiness.